Are You Ready To Let Go?
We all want to flourish in this lifetime, but most people still carry dead weight, inhibiting thacem from ever accomplishing their goals or growing. We get accustomed to the weight and carry on with life, not realising that the burden is holding us back. These weights may include friends, family members, jobs, habits, or ideologies. These entities become challenging to detach from due to familiarity. We become comfortable with them because they are ingrained in us. However, our minds are cell membranes. We can build barriers to keep the unwanted out, not stunt our growth, and give access to what will nourish our minds and allow us to thrive.
Refer : https://www.britannica.com/science/cell-membrane
Leave Others Behind to Reach Ahead Sometimes you will need to leave others to get ahead in life. Many people might disagree, but you cannot help others if you are not well-equipped. Instead, take yourself out of the equation and nurture yourself so you can go back and pull up others. I recently watched a clip of Lisa Nichols, a motivational speaker who shared that sometimes the door size is only big enough for you to pass through. She further explains that many cannot reach their full potential because they want their relatives and friends to pass through the door, but the passage was meant only for you. Nurture yourself, and then once you are adequate, you can go back and help others to get ahead, too.
Refer : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSxhIp4l1DY
Values
When you were younger, the core of your value system was shaped by your parents, teachers and other adults around you. Values are guidelines for how you think and act in society. They are your code of conduct. As children, we are sponges, readily absorbing all the behaviours we see daily, but as we grow older, our value system might change as we try to shape our identity. We can add or subtract from our existing values. When you were younger, you valued excitement. Now you value serenity. You may value being successful in your job. Now, you value health and fitness. Some values once held do not fit the mould of who you try to become. And now, those values will have to be discarded for you to move ahead.
Refer : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ulterior-motives/201509/how-do-people-s-values-change-they-get-older
Refer : https://www.mentalhelp.net/self-help/values-and-morals-changes/#:~:text=People's%20values%20tend%20to%20change,your%20way%20in%20the%20world.
Refer : https://www.ethicssage.com/2018/08/what-are-values.html
Walk Away From Toxic Jobs
It isn't easy to walk away from your job. After all, it pays the bills and allows you to live a particular lifestyle. You might be hesitant to leave your current job without another assurance. Also, there is a possibility of getting into another one worse than before. However, your current job may be the one stifling your growth. Often, colleagues denigrate your work; you are overworked and have not grown from your post. It would be best to leave that job for you to strive, but make plans to exist so you'll be able to cope after you quit.
Forgive Yourself
We all make mistakes in life, but they do not define us. We learn from them and move on. Some people have difficulties forgiving themselves for the wrongs they have committed. If you allow the past to dictate your future, there is no room for growth. Avoid being a victim and be a survivor. The past is the past; there is nothing you can do to change that. Focus on what you can do now.
Dwindling Relationships For some, their relationships are at a plateau. The strong connection you once had with your partner has become weakened or barely there. You do not have conversations or solve problems together and deliberately avoid each other. Many begin fantasising about a new partner or about breaking up with their current one. If you and your partner are unwilling to work through this phase in your relationship, it makes no sense to stay.
Refer : https://www.bustle.com/p/9-times-reaching-a-plateau-in-your-relationship-is-a-problem-13166144#:~:text=%22A%20plateau%20often%20involves%20a,%2C%20Virginia%20Williamson%2C%20tells%20Bustle.
Abusive Marriages
What about being in an abusive relationship even though you are married? You believe in "Till death do us part." I am no Bible expert, but I am intrigued by how people stay in abusive marriages. I know I would leave because I would not be able to live through the torment, and it would signal that my abuser has all the control and can do whatever to me. If I stay, then I will die. Genesis 2:24 states, "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." God takes marriages very seriously. The two individuals, when married, operate as one unit. But how about when one partner becomes abusive? Does that partner stay in that marriage until death? Ephesians 5:22 says that wives should submit to their husbands; verse 28 also states that a man should be a loving husband. If the marriage is not of love or approved by God through the actions of both spouses, I believe it is not right to stay in that marriage, as Ephesians 5:21 explains: "Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ." Hence, one can exist in a failing marriage. When you let go, you will be criticised for your decision. But no one knows you best, aside from God. You are at a phase in your life where you want better for yourself. One day, the same individuals will reach that cross-road, too, and they will understand then, but now is for you. Let go if you need to. Let go to grow.
